MMM 096: On the Speaker Mindset, Part Two


 Last week in Part One of this series, we talked about the importance of walking into the room to give a talk with the mindset of "I can't wait to share this with them."

It's about turning your fear into excitement.

And I know it's more complicated than just saying it over and over again in your head, but truly, saying it over and over again in your head helps. Eventually, you convince yourself. (Not unlike those power stances; sometimes we have to trick ourselves into feeling confident.)

Today's mindset - part two - is about embracing the live theater aspect to this awesome work. We need the mindset of "It is what it is - so I might as well enjoy it."

Improv, anyone? Live theater! Who knows what will go wrong, but you can count on something going wrong, and most of the time it's not the thing we expect. How cool is that?! Sometimes, not cool -but guess what? You can't do a darn thing about it.

So - you might as well make the best of it. Kind of like this fancy lady here:


Gotta love it. She was in the moment - accepted what was really going on - and rolled with it (literally). A bit of "Yes, And." Along with a dash of "the show must go on."

Let's just pretend for a moment that she hadn't rolled with it. Let's pretend that she came sauntering out on stage, stumbled, fell - and looked up at all of us like her dreams were just destroyed (and they might very well have been). We would have felt awful for her. We would have gotten really uncomfortable, looked away, been shocked... "Oh how terrible..."  "That poor woman..."  We are feeling for her - but not in a good way.

But - and I can't believe I'm drawing so much meaning from a GIF - because she embraced the mindset of  "It is what it is, I might as well enjoy it"  - we are delighted by her humanness. Impressed, actually, by her grace under fire. Connected, curious, and now I am cheering her on. The same thing happened - she just reacted to it differently.

The next time you walk in to give a talk - know that something will indeed go wrong. And how cool for you that you have the chops to handle it with grace - and find the joy in it.

Our audiences deserve it - and so do you! You work too hard to fall on your face and then feel terribly about it. Falling on your face is part of the adventure!

 #Speakers: Of course we'll fall on our faces. We work too hard to not enjoy the fun of the fall."