204: The Biggest Hangup Most Storytellers Face
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Ok, let’s dive in to this week’s episode!
Great to be back with you!
We are in the middle of our story-focus month as we prep for the launch of Speaking Story on September 4th... it’s coming up, are you ready?! WHOOOEEE!!
As we prep we’re talking about some of the essential ideas, skills, needs for us as speakers in order for us to really be able to speak our story well, with skill - and so we can move our audience in the process.
On today’s episode we’re going to be talking about the biggest hangup I see again and again with speakers as they begin to develop their story...
And I want to get it out there so that - even if you don’t end up taking the course with me next month, you avoid this hangup...
And that is: telling a GENERIC story, that’s not really a story.
Last week I was listening to a "story" that wasn’t a story -
It was more of a rant... a general talking about rather than setting INTO a particular moment. And that’s the key.
A story can sometimes be a wide umbrella and category... and I think we are often calling something a story that isn’t a story.
It might be a rant... or a summary... or a…
Like - a few weeks ago, I used this example:
It’s the difference between saying "I used to play Lacrosse with the neighbors, and we always got ice cream after every practice..." and saying:
“One especially hot day, after my friends and I were done playing Lacrosse and were walking home... we heard the music of the ice cream truck from a few blocks away..."
Just that one shift - from a more generic talking about something to the specificity of ONE MOMENT opens the door to all kinds of things that I’m going to be talking about in this list.
Placing it in ONE moment in time can help you avoid this hangup - and it invites in all kinds of wonderful specificity that seems to only come alive when we avoid the generic summary (that is not really a story).
It’s why story is often defined as having a beginning, middle and end...
It has to START somewhere if it has a beginning. (And by the way, I think it can start at the end - but I think the point is that it’s clear where the START is).
I often see speakers tell a generic summary BEFORE they actually tell their more specific story.
And I get the utility in that sometimes...
I used to play Lacrosse with the neighbors every day... and on one particularly hot day, we were ... "
that’s cool because it’s setting up some important context that might be needed or helpful or useful, before you dive into the specific moment.
But as I talked about last week, there are times, when it’s more artistic, powerful, interesting, intriguing... to just START at the beginning of the story.
There’s a possibility that we get too specific.. but that’s an editing issue, and a topic for another day.
So - it’s simple - but pervasive... don’t tell a generic summary. Tell us a story, set in a specific moment in time.
Short and sweet one today!
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"A story can sometimes be a wide umbrella and category... and I think we are often calling something a story that isn’t a story..."
The launch of Speaking Story on September 4th.
Telling a GENERIC story, that’s not really a story is.
Placing it in ONE moment in time can help you avoid this hangup.
Join me at my FREE MASTERCLASS.
"It’s why a story is often defined as having a beginning, middle and end... It has to START somewhere if it has a beginning. (And by the way, I think it can start at the end - but I think the point is that it’s clear where the StART is..."