196: Three Things You Need to Believe To Tell Your Story With Authenticity

 On this week's episode of This Moved Me, neuroscientist Carmen Simon shares her tips for speakers to help them create talks that audiences remember.

Bringing your story to life… 

To do that, we need to believe some things - deep down - before we can take the stage with courage and authenticity.
Last week I talked about Six Rookie Storytelling Mistakes (and what to do instead).

But this week - in anticipation of the Speaking Story course that opens for enrollment this coming Friday - we are diving into three beliefs all of my speakers wrestle with to some level or another (and from one day to another)!

Belief #1: You belong on stage


It’s amazing to me that, even having spoken to hundreds of people about this very thing - people who have EVERY reason in the world to feel like they ‘belong’ on stage - pause and question and wonder… Who am I to be doing this? 

The idea of ‘speaker’ looms large in people’s minds…

“I speak, but I’m not a speak-ER.”

I don’t have a book

I don’t look the part

I don’t know as much as someone else

I don’t have the right amount of experience

BLAH BLAH BLAH!

There’s a lot that stands in our way of believing that we belong on stage. 


Here’s the deal: By simply taking the stage you belong there. 

Something has compelled you to speak. Something has brought you here… 

And I am reminded of this amazing quote by Marianne Williamson:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. 

— Marianne Williamson

This quote reminds me of speaker after speaker, who - especially on the days when we wonder if we can really do this - steps up front anyway.

Who are you NOT to get out front?

Belief #2: There’s room for your unique story/approach/self

There is no one way to do this speaking thing!

There are formulas, expectations - our own and other people’s! - that can absolutely keep us from having an authentic connection with our audience. The speakers that we remember… the talks that stick with us… have more to do with feeling like we know who that person is, we get what they’re about, we feel connected to them… than that they followed the formula well. 


Get rid of the old ideas

Bust the rules open

Do it differently!

Not only to you belong on stage - but YOU belong on stage. 

Isn’t that exciting??

Maybe scary too. But the best talks are the ones that scare us a little.

There’s room for you.

Belief #3: Our credibility isn’t built on perfection, it’s built on connection. 

You know what that means?

It means that something could go terribly wrong, and you could still have an impactful, powerful moment.

Sometimes we forget that speakers are humans and our audience is full of HUMAN BEINGS and so the more human we can be the more connection and resonance we can find with each other.


It doesn’t mean we’re not going to be polished, and we’re not going to be professionals, and keep in mind audience and context and expectations. But we don’t let them rule us.

And one of the best ways to move people is to show up with some vulnerability

It doesn’t have to be perfect.  In fact - please don’t do it perfectly.

3 Core Beliefs… that will help you speak with courage and authenticity:

  • You belong on stage

  • There’s room for your unique voice

  • Your credibility isn’t build on how perfectly you do this


DISCOVER YOUR SPEAKING SUPERPOWER!

Download this FREE workbook to walk you through a short process to help you discover what makes you ‘you’ up on stage!


 
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  • The story behind the “pearl button” - and how that can help us find our speaking superpower

Resources and links:

Discover Your Speaking Superpower download

Sign up for the Speaking Story online course!


JOIN THE COURSE!

If you want to dig deeper into how to bring your story to life on stage, get on the waitlist for my upcoming SPEAKING STORY course! I’d love to have you join in on the fun. <3


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